There are conflicts of needs, wants, preferences, interests, opinions, beliefs and values. Most conflicts are in areas that have more than two alternatives.A few people can control their anger, competitive, I-give-up feelings and self- serving tendencies and genuinely seek a fair, optimal solution for both parties. If you do not like the choice your partner wants, and your partner does not like your choice, with a little more effort you might be able to find another alternative that you both like and want. When you cannot find an alternative that you both want, look for an option that is acceptable to both of you, or negotiate an agreeable compromise. But for some couples, conflicts lead to arguments and arguments often get out of control. The goal is to learn to work together as a team, using differences to make life better for both of us.There are many reasons people may experience such doubts.Some of these may be legitimate and some may ridiculous, and the difficulty comes in knowing which is which.I expect we have all seen dating relationships go wrong.We have all seen people move from unwise and unhealthy dating relationships into turbulent, difficult, or even doomed marriages. What are some danger signs of an unhealthy dating relationship?
Instead of finding solutions, they create new problems. Unfortunately, the accomplishments are destructive. Arguments are those carefully worded statements designed to appeal to the other person's sense of logic and reason. When the spouse fails to agree, she now falls into the category of being illogical. You may end up yelling or screaming or crying; spouting out words that assassinate your mate's character; questioning his motives; and condemning his behavior as unloving, unkind, and undisciplined. You win and your spouse loses; you lose and your spouse wins; or you argue to a draw.The book also addresses situations that should be approached with humor and ones that are so ridiculous that after some thought, should be avoided.99 Conflicts addresses several categories, from family to the workplace to places of worship using real-life scenarios.Families, friendships and employments have been broken or ended over unnecessary conflict that spiraled out of control.99 Conflicts to Avoid helps the reader question what reaction, if any, a situation demands and whether or not the reaction will further escalate the conflict.