When I was a practicing therapist working with women moving on from a relationship and getting ready to date again, I would encourage them to be a little less available than they had been in their last relationship.Women, inevitably, would say to me, "I don't want to play games.About a year ago I began dating a girl who was a horrible text responder. When I first asked her out, it took her three days to reply. When it comes to dating, no one wants to come off as too eager, but that seemed excessive.
BUT more importantly, in pursuing this person or making sure this person likes/is attracted to YOU, you are missing all the signs that he might be a problem later on. Having your own life and your own interests makes you an attractive person.
I do not let him know about the texts from other guys (even if it's just a text from my gay friend or a guy who's asking me for help on an assignment).
When she's just not that into you, she won't care if you know who called or texted.
You'll know the guys to whom she's talking, joining on dates and hooking up with.
You'll even know about her ex-boyfriend, in great detail.