*** “I think I’m going to start dating, Mom,” Emily told me on the phone from college, when she was 19. This choice reflected her beliefs as an Orthodox girl: Dating happens only when you are marriage-minded.I could see the advantages of this outlook on dating, but I had begun to wonder about its practicality.August, 2005 Forty years later, I can remember my father telling me, "No, you can't go out with non-Jewish boys, and that is the end of the story." Of course, that was not the end of the endless arguments, discussions, pleadings, and badgering that went on in our household in Tulsa, Oklahoma.There were only about 300 Jewish families in Tulsa when I grew up there in the fifties and sixties, and only fourteen people in my confirmation class at our Conservative synagogue.Of course I didn't want to date those few boys who were my age nor did they want to date the few Jewish girls.We were the minority amongst the Baptists, Presbyterians, Methodists and evangelicals.
My daughter, who's now twenty-one, has had three serious boyfriends.
Yet for my younger siblings, the fights were less intense and less frequent.
I paved the way for my sister to have a non-Jewish boyfriend in high school who actually could come in the house and sit in the living room without being treated as the invisible man. I am now married to a non-Jewish husband and the mother of two twenty-something children.
Judaism generally recognizes that Christians and Moslems worship the same G-d that we do and those who follow the tenets of their religions can be considered righteous in the eyes of G-d.
Contrary to popular belief, Judaism does not maintain that Jews are better than other people.